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Women enjoy sex best when there is a balance between pleasure and comfort. While some of them may get adventurous enough to act a partner’s fantasies every now and then, on the whole they are more drawn to what gives maximum pleasure with minimum of effort. Here are 10 best sex positions for women ranging from the common to the kinky.

1. Riding him, cowgirl style

Women simply love being on top for the same reason that men do – it gives them a feeling of being in charge which is potent enough to act like a turn-on. Moreover straddling across her partner also gives a woman enough room to maneuver the act of the intercourse, thus enabling her to orgasm better.

2. The creative missionary

The man-on-woman position, also known as the missionary style if by far the most common sex position. Most of the times women prefer this one for the simple reason that it is comfortable and does not call for the flexibility of a gymnast. But for the same reason, it does not mean that the missionary position should get boring or predictable. All it requires is a little imagination and passion from the male partner. For instance the male partner on top, could use his tongue to trace a moist line down the woman’s throat and breasts or if she enjoys displays of dominance, he could hold her head back while she begs to be taken.

3. Mix of sitting and standing

Yet another position that women enjoy is when they are sitting on a surface whose level reaches till the waist of the standing male partner. This allows a woman to spread her legs wide to receive her partner thus placing her vagina exactly against the man’s groin and thereby increasing her chances of a G-spot orgasm. At the same time the guy has the convenience of a full and deep penetration. However for the same reason, this position requires the guy to take it slow or he may climax early. A couple can use the kitchen counter, the dining table or even the hood of the car for this sex position.

4. A private lap-dance

A variant of the woman-on-top position, in this one, the guy reclines on a couch while the woman half sits and half lies across him. The reason why a girl loves this one is because it allows her to brace herself against the back of the sofa thereby obtaining adequate leverage to ride her partner to orgasm. In fact she can use just one hand to support herself while she uses the other to stimulate her clitoris and heighten her own pleasure.

5. Spooning up pleasure

Here the woman lies with her back to the guy who is facing her back and buttocks, much in the way spoons are stacked against each other. The chief reason why women love this one is because they adore the feel of a man’s chest against their backs and the enveloping warmth of his arms around her body, which is indicative of love and protection. As a sex position, this allows a woman the pleasure of penetration from behind while the guy gets a good grip by holding onto her hips. The man in fact can enhance his partner’s pleasure by rubbing his groin against her hips or by stimulating her clitoris from behind.

6. Getting down on her

Giving a woman the oral is one of the surest ways to make her come. This is because the clitoris is a supremely sensitive organ and when stimulated by tongue or a finger can guarantee orgasm like little else can. The male partner however should not use his tongue as a human vibrator but should start by kissing and caressing the clitoris, urethra and vaginal opening. And when the clitoris hardens, he can use his finger to delve into the vaginal area and stimulate the G-spot. He can be guided by his partner on this, since most men are not exactly clear where the G-spot lies. As the woman’s clitoris and G-spot soak in the stimulation, she will be well on her way to orgasm.

7. Giving the man a blowjob

Even though this usually tops the list of best male sex positions, oral sex on a guy can be pleasurable to women also. This is because for women sex is as much about giving love as receiving it. However a man needs to ensure that he is well-groomed and has been wearing clean underwear. Also it would help if he can guide his female partner on how he likes a blowjob best which mainly involves the right degree of pressure of the kind of strokes he likes.

8. Doing it ‘doggy style’

This sex position has received rather some bad press on account of it being a standard fixture in porn videos. But if done with sensitivity and care on the part of the man, there is no reason why a woman cannot enjoy getting down on all the fours as well. For instance, if the guy instead of standing straight while penetrating his partner, leans over to caress her breasts or her clitoris, she will not only be nicely stimulated but closer to experiencing an orgasm with him. What matters in this style is that it is done with intimacy and mutual pleasure so that the woman is not made to feel like an object.

9. Standing up from behind

This position is a variation on the former and involves a woman standing up with her knees slightly bent forward instead of getting down on all fours as in the ‘doggy-style’. Here a woman arches forward a little so that her partner’s movements from behind push forward on her G-spot which is exactly what she needs for pleasurable sex.

10. The sixty-nine

This is as kinky as it gets with the partners lying on their sides, facing each other but the position of the heads reversed in the manner of the aforementioned number.  Primarily meant for oral sex, the position allows each partner access to the other’s genitals by mouth. While climaxing together in this position is tricky and may require practice, the main thing for couples is to enjoy the uniqueness of the posture and have fun.

Women, like men, vary in their individual turn-ons and choice of sexual positions. What may drive one woman crazy with pleasure might be uncomfortable for another. However the important thing is to remember that if gone about with mutual love and comfort, there is little that a woman will not enjoy or be game for.

Here’s the thing: Researchers now believe that emotional intimacy plays a sizeable role in a woman’s sexual response cycle, which means that you best back your brain up from that initial point of groping-and-kissing—and re-think your foreplay plan all together. In fact, to boost your bond and give her that feeling of connectivity she needs to get aroused, experts suggest starting with small gestures way before the big event. (Pro tip: Send her a simple breakfast-time text that says, “Hey babe, can’t wait for tonight”—and a few follow-ups throughout the day, too.)

You know how when you’re crazed, a good romp helps you blow off steam? While stress won’t inhibit a man’s arousal, a woman is a more complicated creature, sexually speaking. Pull her away for a pump-and-run, my friend—and your chances of getting her off aren’t so good. “If there are five roommates in the other room or she has 10 emails that need to get answered, it’s going to be hard for her to orgasm,” says Kerner. “For a woman to really get aroused, the parts of her brain associated with outside stress and anxiety need to deactivate.” So make it a point to get her in a relaxed environment, and remember to stoke that fire slowly. Most women require a full 15 to 20 minutes of sexual arousal and activity to reach orgasm with a partner. (Patience, son.)

Now that you know a woman’s body can take much longer than a man’s to heat up, you’ll understand that the female orgasm is all about sustaining her arousal. And one of the easiest ways to do that, according to Dr. Patti Britton, PhD, clinical sexologist and co-founder of SexCoachU.com, is a surprisingly G-rated return to the first-base basics, which will help her feel more connected to you as her excitement builds…and builds…and builds. “Keep going back to kissing, and make it an ongoing part of the sexual act—not just foreplay,” Britton says. “It sounds so mundane, but kissing is important to her—it sends that bioelectric shock through her body—and it too often gets left out in today’s rushed world.”

When you’re in the midst of the act, you’re probably thinking a combination of “Yes! It’s happening!” and “Well done, bro! She’s hot.” But a woman’s mind, on the other hand, might be somewhere in between, “Oh no. Does my ass look huge?” and “I hope he doesn’t notice [insert insecurity here].” Since study after study has shown that even minor body image issues can inhibit her ability to enjoy sex, get aroused, and reach orgasm, do what you can—in the moment—to make her feel attractive and comfortable. You think she’s hot, right? So tell her…again and again. It all goes back to what Kerner already said: Relaxing her brain is key to relaxing—and arousing—her body.

“A lot of men approach oral sex as an act of foreplay,” says Kerner. “But direct clitoral stimulation might not feel good at the start of sex.” So spend at least five minutes kissing, caressing, and working the rest of her body first. And since so many women claim that receiving oral sex is the best way to consistently orgasm (not sure about your lady? Just ask!) Kerner also suggests that you consider making it your game-time performance—and not just a warm-up drill.

So we’ve already said to take it slow, with lots of foreplay. But what’s the exact game plan? Britton likes to teach her clients to treat it like a step-by-step process: Hands, then mouth, then penis, with one key ingredient thrown into the mix from the get-go. “A good, slippery, long-lasting lube is so important,” she says. “If your finger is dry and she’s not amply aroused, which she won’t be at this point, it can be painful—and one uncomfortable misstep is all it takes to shut her down.”

When Barry Komisaruk, PhD, a behavioral neuroscientist at Rutgers University and author of The Science of Orgasm, mapped women’s brains in a study, he found that stimulating the clitoris, vagina, cervix, and nipples all activated slightly different parts of the brain. That’s cool science, sure, but why should you care? It’s simple: By employing your penis and two hands to hit these hot spots all at once, that pleasure center in her head is going to light up like a Fourth of July fireworks display. “Women have said they can orgasm from each of these separately, but when you combine them, so many more neurons and nerve cells are responding,” says Komisaruk. “That means the resulting orgasm is going to be that much stronger and more enjoyable.”

When you do eventually go down on her, Britton recommends this secret method: Lie horizontal (like from 3-9 o’clock), so that you’re still licking up and down—but your tongue is going across her clitoris. “In one study I conducted, 50% of women had more rapid and more intense orgasms from that positioning,” she says.

Position is certainly a personal preference, says Komisaruk, but there’s some science that makes a case for foregoing good old missionary—and entering her from behind. “Pushing forward toward the front wall of the vagina stimulates a much more complex combination of the vaginal, clitoral, urethral, and prostate areas than in the other direction,” he says. And when it comes to intercourse in general, Britton adds this simple—but sage—advice that pays dividends: “Rock, don’t pound,” she says, “and she’ll love it.” (In fact, you might also want to encourage her get on top, which will increase clitoral stimulation—and allow her to control the speed and motion.)

Follow all of the advice we just gave you, and you should get her into what Kerner calls “the 90-second window”—that oh-so-crucial period where she’s this close to coming. The key, though, is recognizing it. For many women, reaching orgasm requires a sense of inward focus, so you won’t necessary hear moans or shouts. “Her eyes will close, you’ll sense muscular tension throughout the body, and—if engaging in manual or oral stimulation—you might feel entire pelvic floor tightening,” says Kerner. At this point, she’s almost there, and the best way to push her past the finish line is to apply pressure against the clitoris. So keep doing what you’re doing, but provide a point of solid resistance, says Kerner. Let her do the work until she comes—and then prepare for round two. (Yes, women can have multiple orgasms.)